Purpose of this website

People with gender issues need our most profound compassion but they also need the truth so they can escape the pitfalls of changing genders.

My purpose in providing this website is:

1. Preventing suicide and regret by providing real life stories supported by sound research.

2. Highlighting research that shows:

  • De-transitions and regret are far more common than the media reports
  • The need for accurate and effective diagnoses of co-morbid disorders
  • Transgenders often suffer from mental health disorders
  • The suicide rates for transgenders is far too high at 30%

Detransition because NOT "born in the wrong body"

A University of Rome study proves transsexuals have normal Y chromosomes. The SRY is the main sex-determining gene. AZF a, b and C are genes for male infertility. Transsexuals do not even have a smidgeon of abnormality there.

The DAX1 and androgen receptor genes were theorized to cause transsexualism since they can lead to intersex and can turn a person with a normal Y chromosome into a XY woman. Yet there is no alteration in these genes in any of the transsexuals.

See the article.

Britain's youngest sex swap patient to detransition (Oct. 29, 2012)

After all the favorable publicity in the US about children "needing" sex change treatment, it's refreshing to read that it is not "happily ever after."

This young person made the decision at age 16-17 to start the transition, and now regrets it only one year later. She has cancelled the operation scheduled for January and halted hormone treatments.

She (or he) confirms the point I made in my book, Paper Genders--the brain hasn't matured enough to make this decision until the person reaches their mid-20s. So why would we encourage any child to undergo "treatments" with such long-term consequences?

The following is an excerpt from the article (Oct. 29, 2012):

Although Ms Cooper underwent a thorough psychological assessment and counseling at Hull Royal Infirmary prior to starting her sex change therapy she has suffered such torment living as a women that she has tried to commit suicide twice.

She told told the Sunday Mirror: ‘The hormones have made me feel up and down. One minute I feel moody and the next minute I feel really happy.’

‘The night I tried to slash my wrists I’d downed a bottle of Jack Daniel’s and just thought about how alone I am, and how my decision has alienated my family and how I will have to become a boy again to resolve it.’

You can read the entire article here: Daily Mail

Regret Is Real—and Transgenders Are Going Back...

From a physician:
"If I could only go back to the day before my surgery in March of 2005 -- I would run from that surgeon’s knife. I have lived and worked as a surgically altered man trying to play the part of a woman for six years. I spared no expense at trying to make it work."
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Regret Is Real—and Sometimes Quick

"Although I thought I was completely sure of what I was doing, I began to regret the decision a mere three weeks after the operation. Some might say I was experiencing post-op depression, but it was definitely more than that. Read more

Some Research Findings

  • 2003 Swedish Study Findings
    "...suggest that sex reassignment, although alleviating gender dysphoria, may not suffice as treatment for transsexualism."
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  • Suicide Studies
    "A staggering 41 percent of transgender people in the United States have attempted to commit suicide, according to a new survey."
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  • Much more research is in Walt Heyer's book, Paper Genders